Well, mate suppression is mandatory because it will really be very expensive for society if the intergenerational social problems continue and the entire family is not capable of civic competence at any level. There are people in Finland who are third-generation drug addicts.
It sounds cruel, but you would understand the need for it if you were born into a family that was never supposed to reproduce. Anyone who is even slightly anti-natalist in their thinking takes it for granted that reproduction in itself is wrong, but it is even more wrong to reproduce if you are a drug addict or poor.
Mate suppression is good for the child who is born, who doesn't have to put up with horrible parents, and for society, who doesn't have to waste its tax money on horrible families and endure indirect consequences such as crime.
I also rolled my eyes when I heard about toxic femininity in this video. Like, of course if you want change in any way, you don't start fighting or doing something in front of people in a masculine way, because it would be too obvious what's going on. I also get annoyed by the fact that he's guilt tripping about the fact that women have done this kind of thing throughout history. And? Because a woman can't physically fight a man, so you have to be much more creative about how to get the man who is fucking around, out of the way.