my life advice for people who have realized that they're pdfs
if you're wondering whether you're a pdf or not, you are. it is understandable to deny this aspect of oneself. there has been a time in every pdf's life when they have denied being pdf to themselves, even though they have an obvious interest at the level of fantasies. the whole world wants those people who only have such thoughts in their heads to die, whether you are actually a criminal or not.
you can question this general zeitgeist yourself: isn't it morally wrong to wish death on people who never chose to be pdfs? and you can understand it yourself: why on earth would you ever want to be the most hated person on the entire planet? you couldn't have chosen this for yourself. so why do you care about this stigma that rains down death threats? so you know, they're stupid.
you are also not responsible for anyone's trauma, you don't need to listen to someone who was sexually abused as a child rant about pdfs needing to die because their fantasies are practically about their sexual trauma. on top of all that, these people don't understand that pdfs may have been sexually abused as children themselves. it doesn't matter, anyone can be a victim. they should know, with the vast flood of information provided by the internet, that being pdf is not a choice and has nothing to do with anyone's moral compass, it's a paraphilia, not a statement about them and their traumas, they don't understand that not everything revolves around them. the only time you should ever take their word for it is if you are actually someone who watches real child porn and abuses children, then you belong in prison. although pedophilia (attachment) is not a choice, the crimes (acts) are.
carl jung's psychological theories talk about the shadow. so mind consists of three things: persona (mask), self and the shadow. so the mask is the role that you show off publicly, it's filtered version of self. self is your own honest interpretation of yourself. but what's the shadow? it is everything that you are, but which you do not want to admit. it is something within yourself that you are ashamed of, hate, and fear.
jung argues that all of our mental suffering comes from the existence of a shadow. the larger the shadow is in relation to yourself, the more psychological discomfort you have. of course, we will always have that shadow, and it is necessary; we cannot always deal with self-related issues acutely. but you could compare the shadow to a mountain of dishes. of course, you can postpone doing the dishes if you have a bad day and feel bad, but one day you have to wash those dishes. it's a storage building for your difficult feelings about yourself, but at some point that space runs out and the mental collapse is palpable.
so, in jungian psychology the absolute honesty to yourself is the key for mental wellbeing.
like, you could always lie to everyone else but never lie to yourself. or, rather, i'd say that you should be honest yourself but still navigate through limited self exposure that it doesn't have to be part of your persona mask and with that, focus on finding people who you could be honest with. you should never try to fit in, just when you are with people that you know that would throw you under the bus, leave in silence. you should have social circles where you can be absolutely honest. go with gradual self exposure and when you see that this person is too like, invested in moral panic like thinking, back up and never show off your true self to them.
having any people who actually knows your situation is important. it's really distressing to keep these things only to yourself.
being pdf has nothing to do with your own moral compass, it's a paraphilia that you didn't choose for yourself and the only thing you are morally responsible for is not putting any of your fantasies into practice.