the ultimate reason why you should avoid uneducated people if you want life without emotional abuse and bullshit
the fundamental reason why low-educated low-socioeconomic class people are usually emotionally abusive, irresponsible and liars, is because the reason why they have to do that in the first place, is because they aren't good at anything and instead of taking responsibility of becoming a better person with any skills, they don't want to make that work but pretending to be better than they really are.
narcissists can be found in every social class, but they are most common in the lower social classes for this very reason. there are fewer narcissists in the upper social classes because their own level of education gives them the perspective to understand that one should not comment on matters of a scientific field about which they know nothing (dunning-kruger effect, the less a person knows, the more they think they know because if they did, they would understand that things are complicated) and on top of that, the pride associated with the upper social classes is completely healthy because it is an objectively verifiable fact that they are better at something than the average person. they are therefore concretely better people, therefore the habitus of the upper social classes is not collectivist narcissism but the fact that they are better than others.
the lower classes of society are no good at anything and in order to be "relevant" in any way, they pretend to know things even though they know nothing. in the upper classes of society, these people have no power because they as educated people know that these low-class narcissists are lying at their faces. people in the lower social classes are less educated, so they don't recognize that this loser narcissist is just lying and controlling them. this then leads to the fact that when, for example, a person makes social mobility by having proper education and seeking help from therapy, these people lose their power because the person who made the class jump and had proper therapy realizes that they are nothing more than pathetic losers who control other people because they have no control over their own lives, because they have been managing their life affairs stupidly. this then explains why narcissistic people from the lower social classes are also anti-intellectuals. they want to gaslight you into thinking that statistics and researched knowledge is a lie and their bullshit is the truth. this is because lies lose their power when struck by the sword of truth through researched knowledge. this also applies when you go to therapy. the most ironic narcissistic gaslighting ragebait i've encountered was "hey why would i trust you when you're crazy because you went to therapy, you're crazy, i'm not" so ok i went to therapy because of people like you and i learned from that that people like you shouldn't be in my life. all therapists think you're crazy, i recommend you go to therapy, usually victims go to therapy but their abusers don't, right?
usually, enablers are the people who will stay in a shitty social position forever as well as narcissists. no upper class person trusts anyone who is like "yeah he hit me repeatedly but he's still a good guy and yes he's still emotionally abusive but he's still a sweetheart on the inside". this is because people in the upper social classes know that if an enabler comes to protect people with narcissistic tendencies in the upper social classes, in the worst case scenario it will destroy their careers. all it takes is one narcissistic rage baiting moment, reaction and victim playing, also known as darvo ("deny, attack, reverse victim and offender") and reactive abuse. for example, a narcissist might say, "it's a good thing your child was killed," and you start yelling at that person, and then the narcissist films your reaction on camera and says without any context, "look how she's abusing me, she's the crazy one." enablers should be treated with the same stigma as psychological abusers because they enable this behavior. if they weren't in these shitty relationships with loser narcissists, the narcissist would lose all their power. don't waste your time on them, enablers won't seek help in the same way that narcissists don't, and trying to turn their heads is dangerous because they will tell the narcissist everything you tell them, and they will react with revenge.
in addition to the fact that no one trusts enablers, what also stands in the way of success is that enablers usually don't understand that in order to be successful in your life, you can't have everything with you, in this case, that energy-sucking narcissist. they will not succeed because success always requires prioritizing energy, and the stupidest thing to spend your energy on instead of your own success is pleasing a narcissist and being under the orders of a narcissist. this is also not about wasting energy, but about the concrete reason why you should use stonewalling (no contact) with narcissists: they are concretely trying to prevent you from developing yourself, being better than them, and finally reaching the level of consciousness where you understand that the narcissist is just a loser who has no real power over you, and you give him power just as much as you please him, listen to him and involved with him. no contact means no power because they live only through narcissistic supply, unrequited validation.
yeah, even if someone is an enabler, consider it as big a red flag as narcissism. don't give them social media, don't give them any information about yourself.
the way i would recommend coping with narcissists and their enablers without having to dwell on your thoughts of revenge is to think of them as paper tigers. paper tiger is a concept from mao zedong that means something that looks scary, big and strong, but it's just paper, that paper can be set on fire or crumpled. the only reason anyone would ever be narcissistic is because they are stupid, weak, and untalented losers who try to "prove" by lying and not with actual skills or qualifications to others that they are so great even though objectively they are not. they're the same fucking people who call really good players in video games hackers because they can't deal with the fact that they're crap at playing and if they wanted to be better, then they should play more and be better. it's exactly this thing, but in all aspects of life. they usually don't have real power, that "power" is just a fabrication that you yourself know is just a false coulisse. enablers, on the other hand, are just people with a lower level of thinking, they aren't called flying monkeys for nothing. why would you be angry at a monkey? it's just a monkey.
if, on the other hand, this person actually has power (which is rare but still possible), then first of all, the place where her influence is located will collapse into its own impossibility and unsustainability because nothing in that influence is based on skill or science, it's just personality cult-like circlejerking based on unethical form of egoism. you just have to wait that it will collapse eventually. don't stay and watch for the collapse, just get on with your life and let that tower collapse in the background, do your own thing. secondly, every single narcissist will lose their power as they get older for many reasons. younger people have less life experiences, so they don't know yet that they deserve better treatment and owe nothing to anyone. older people other hand usually know their worth. younger people also have more energy to deal with bullshit, older people don't and they eventually understand that wasting energy to energy sucking narcissist isn't sensible. when narcissist retires, they won't have as much money in the account, so they cannot engage in economic violence. they also lose their power over shallow people too, because they lose superficial charm because nobody sees old man attractive. they generally lose pretty privilege because when they get older and become ugly, all that's left is their childish worldview. in the case of attractive people, childish and shitty views are allowed because appearance can be monetized, but when there is no attractive appearance, they are no longer of any use at all. this is why narcissists lose their power and become laughing stocks as they get older.